Dear Mr. Proppafix,

I am a Muslim girl. I am 18. I am having sex regularly since January with my boyfriend. However, my parents are against our marriage. I don't want to hurt them and I want to leave my boyfriend but the thought that am not a virgin anymore makes me restless.

I am writing to you to find a solution to my problem. I can't sleep at night and I don't feel hungry anymore. Apart from surgery, is there any way to regain my virginity??? If not, how can I convince my husband I'm a virgin when Im not? In our culture, it's really essential for a girl to be a virgin when she gets married else she will be returned to her mother's place the next day. I am very scared about it.

What if I don't have sex for a longtime? Will my vagina be tight?? If so, will my future husband able to tell if am a virgin or not? How about the *la*hd? How can I make him believe am a virgin? plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz help me out!!! AM worried!!!

Thank u v v v v v v v much in advance. Waiting for your reply impatiently.

-NB

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Dear NB,

It is quite a sticky situation that you have gotten yourself in. No, there are no other ways to regain your virginity except for surgery as once the hymen is broken it's impossible to regain your virginity even if you stop having sexual intercourse.

The only solution I see to the problem is to tell your parents that you have been sexually involved with your present boyfriend and tell them about both your plans to get married. Let them know that you realize that they are against you getting married to this man but unfortunately, in your culture you are now "tainted" and cannot be married off to someone as a virgin. Put it this way, better to deal with their wrath now before getting someone else involved and bringing shame to them when you are returned to them because you are not a virgin. All the best and I do hope it works out for you!