I am 16 years old and I have a dilemma. Three years ago, I met a guy who is three years my senior and was infatuated with him. At that time, I was immature and giddy-headed. His cousin lived downstairs from me and he was visiting him. That's how we met. My best friend, who lived upstairs from me was dating the guy I liked. Anyway, as adolescents usually do when they're paired up and bored, we played truth or dare. My dare was to go into a room with him. When we went in I was shy, but felt like this was my only chance to impress him and I didn't want to blow my chance by seeming immature. I only wanted to kiss him, but he kept on saying: "This is whack". I didn't want him to not like me so when he started to have foreplay with me, I just let him. Then he wanted to have sex. I told him I wasn't a virgin, to please him, when really I was a virgin at the time. I allowed him to insert his penis in me halfway but not enough to break my barrier until he climaxed. When he was finished, we got dressed and left the room as if nothing happened. Later on, he left and I didn't hear anything from him, unless it was through his cousin. His cousin said the guy thought I was too immature for him.

Three years later, I started attending a high school, which I heard he was also at. I was paranoid. I wondered what he would say if he saw me? Would he embarra** me or ignore me? The possibilities ran through my head like crazy? The first hour of school we bumped into each other and he seemed shocked and happy to see me. We greeted each other and everything seemed cool. It was a load off of my shoulders.

Later during the year, he realised how I had matured mentally, and physically. He asked me if we could finish off what we started and I told him that I'm no longer the foolish girl I once was and that cannot happen. He would ask me over and over and try to charm me like the average guy does, saying how he can't believe that I hate him and how I was young and didn't know what I was doing and to get over it.

Since I haven't been responding to him and accepting any of his offers, whenever he sees me he mocks me, taunts me, and even makes up little songs about me. He does this in public, in school and outside school. He doesn't care who I'm with and it's so disgusting. He does it in Patois so mostly only the Jamaican students will understand. It can be embarra**ing and I laugh sometimes because he has a sense of humour. But it's very irritating. Every single time he glances at me when he does it. He even goes around looking for me to do it.

I reported him to teachers many times and he would apologise and then go back and do it again. He doesn't care. I ignore him and it doesn't work. I strike him and it doesn't work. I curse him and tell him bout his mother, but that doesn't work either. I have confronted him face to face, I even pray for him and nothing works. And my friends just laugh with him because it's impossible not to laugh at the stuff he says sometimes though it can be shameful.

What should I do, pastor? It's been two years since I've been dealing with this clown.

Irritated, New Jersey, USA