am an 18-year-old woman living in Miami. My 25-year-old sister has been with her boyfriend for the past four years and they are engaged to get married next year. Her boyfriend is very good-looking and two months ago we went out without my sister and ended up drinking too much and having sex. It was so good that we have continued to have sex and now have a lot of feelings for each other. It turns out now that I am pregnant. I have not told him as yet. I don't want to have an abortion, but I cannot tell my sister.
Pastor, what should I do?
W.W., Florida, USA
Dear W.W.,
Have the baby, but understand that it would take the grace of God for your sister not to hate you. This man and you had some drinks, but you were not drunk. I know that for sure because you said that both of you had sex and the sex was "so good".
Bad girl
And I am putting it to you that you are a bad girl and I say that to say that if you were indeed under liquor and lost control of yourself and a mistake was made, why did you continue to have sex with your sister's fiancé? You know that both of them are engaged to be married. Why have you continued to go to bed with her man?
This man will always look at you as being an easy prey. He is not a good man and frankly your sister should leave him when she finds out what has happened. Some would say that this man took advantage of you because you are such a young woman.