BY Rose-Ann Jones Observer TEENage writer Tuesday, June 03, 2008
In a world where technology is highly competitive and in full dominance, it not just teaches us how to communicate, but also how to socialise; that is finding and seeking out people of various regions and also at varying distances.
As TEENs, we often stumble upon things that intrigue us, and as such, we see it as fun. One of these very things is the 'blind date craze.' This craze will have us up all night talking via the telephone or Internet to someone that we don't even know and worst of all falling for everything that is said.
Because it has become so prevalent within our society, we here at TEENage see it fit to highlight the basic principles of blind dating, since the reality of it all is very clear for all to see that some of the people we interact with through these mediums can be stalkers, users and abusers, criminals and the list continues. As such, we have brought to you a few pointers. So here's the list:
Better safe than sorry: While going on a blind date can be exciting and fun, remember that you have no first-hand knowledge about the person you are meeting. If you have been set up through mutual friends, they will most likely have a rough idea of your plans. But just in case, make sure someone knows exactly where and when you're meeting. If the person you are meeting is a complete stranger, however, you need to take even more precautionary measures. Make sure someone is aware of your whereabouts as well as the name of the person you're meeting with, and how long the date is scheduled to last.
Keep an open mind: Always remember that this is a blind date and you have never seen this person before. Don't form a mental image of this individual or have high expectations. You will only be disappointed if the person does not turn out to be what you have imagined.
Always have a way out: It is crucial when on a blind date that you have an escape route. You could get a friend to call you 30 minutes into the date and if this person does not interest you, you can make up an excuse and leave, but if you do like this person then you can tell your friend to call back later. However, you could get some friends to turn up at the meeting point and if things aren't going well, then you can always leave with them, or if things are going well, you can tell them that you will meet up with them at a later point.
Be VERY observant: Pay close attention to what the person says which can reveal a lot. Discussing taste in music, film, food, art can be a great way to find out if you two have common interests or nothing in common at all!
Meet and greet: One of the biggest mistakes people make when going on a blind date is trying to be someone they aren't. When meeting someone for the first time, be yourself. Whether that means going all out or remaining casual, your personality will shine through only if you're not trying to be something you aren't. While first impressions are important, (for example, do not feel the need to wear heels if you'd normally wear flip-flop), it is best if you allow the person to know who you are; not who this individual wants you to be.
Remember not everyone's tastes are the same and there will be things about a person that you do not like, bad hygiene and common courtesy just to name a few. These are your own warning signs so don't ignore them.