This is probably the most common reason that women withhold sex. If youve done something that made her furious, she may not be above punishing you by keeping the one thing you really, really want out of your reach. The last thing a woman wants to do when shes feeling any kind of negative emotion, whether its mad, sad, frustrated, annoyed, stressed, or worn out, is get busy between the sheets. While many guys can turn off the unpleasant feelings and get down to business, a woman finds it more difficult to push those emotions aside and get aroused. You might be satisfied with angry, violent sex, but she wants to work out her angst before she jumps into bed.
The solution to this is to find out why shes upset and try to fix it. Sometimes simply acknowledging that youve done something wrong is enough to make her calm down. Other times, the only way to get out of the doghouse is to participate in one of those long, heartfelt conversations in which you share feelings.
Shes asserting herself
If shes keeping the good loving from you, it may be an attempt to assert her power over you and the relationship. If theres one area of a relationship women think they have control over, its sex. She may just be doing it to show you whos boss in bed or she may be compensating for feeling powerless in some other aspect of her life. Maybe she has a cruel boss, a domineering best friend or an overprotective mother.
If you suspect that shes withholding sex to assert herself, the easiest way to get the carnal door open again is to compliment her sexual abilities and prowess. This may seem counterintuitive, but if you acknowledge how much you appreciate her in bed she may realize that trying to prove her status is unnecessary.
Shes manipulating you
Another reason women withhold sex is to get something out of you. When no other methods of getting what she wants are working, she might resort to revoking your sex privileges until you agree to what shes after. This will usually be a pretty big thing. Generally, shes not going to bother holding out on you in order to get you to take out the garbage.
The easiest way to get around this is to give her what she wants. If thats not a possibility, youll have to appeal to her sense of reason. If that doesnt work, try giving her something similar to what she wants. If you cant make that happen, you might have to wait it out and service yourself until she comes to her senses.
Shes bored
She could be avoiding sex with you because shes not enjoying it. Some women are embar****ed by the idea of talking about sex with their partners, especially if there is a problem. So instead of telling you whats wrong, she might just close up shop. To get around her sex ban in this case, try suggesting something new sexually. Take her to a sex shop and buy something fun for both of you. Buy a book with suggestions on how to spice things up. If you show some interest and put some effort into making some changes, she may open up again.
Shes tired
Maybe shes not putting out because shes just too damn tired. Perhaps you want to do it more often than she does, and she just cant keep up. Other life demands might be stressing her out and keeping her busy too, making her too worn out to enjoy sex as often as youd like.
To get her back into the idea, pamper her with some relaxing treats beforehand. Draw her a bubble bath or give her a massage. If shes relaxed, shes more likely to feel sexy. Or, you could be truly unselfish and devote your time entirely to her pleasure for one night, making her more likely to want to return the favor another time. Also, you might consider cutting back a bit on the frequency. Instead of going to her every time youre aroused, take matters into your own hands every now and again.
Shes cheating
It is a possibility that shes kicking you out of bed because shes more interested in having sex with some other guy. If this is the case you have bigger problems than lack of sex in your relationship. If you suspect that she is cheating on you (and you should have more reasons than just a decline in your sex routine), confront her with your suspicions calmly and listen to her explanation. If you find out she is cheating, youll have to decide if you want to work on things or move on.
Playing games
Women withhold sex because men let them get away with it. Its pretty clear its the one thing that most guys cant live without and that theyll do pretty much anything to keep it coming on a regular basis. If you and your girlfriend can openly communicate, you should be able to talk through these issues as they come up instead of getting to the point where shes closing her legs while youre begging for it.
doops said
12:43 08/11 2010
for what
Dj Blitz said
12:45 08/11 2010
Kelia said
13:04 08/11 2010
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Mafo said
17:42 08/11 2010
Shes cheating dat me say
dshiznit said
17:48 08/11 2010
some ute just boaring some timea cheat dem a cheat fi real mafo
Shes pissed
This is probably the most common reason that women withhold sex. If youve done something that made her furious, she may not be above punishing you by keeping the one thing you really, really want out of your reach. The last thing a woman wants to do when shes feeling any kind of negative emotion, whether its mad, sad, frustrated, annoyed, stressed, or worn out, is get busy between the sheets. While many guys can turn off the unpleasant feelings and get down to business, a woman finds it more difficult to push those emotions aside and get aroused. You might be satisfied with angry, violent sex, but she wants to work out her angst before she jumps into bed.The solution to this is to find out why shes upset and try to fix it. Sometimes simply acknowledging that youve done something wrong is enough to make her calm down. Other times, the only way to get out of the doghouse is to participate in one of those long, heartfelt conversations in which you share feelings.
Shes asserting herself
If shes keeping the good loving from you, it may be an attempt to assert her power over you and the relationship. If theres one area of a relationship women think they have control over, its sex. She may just be doing it to show you whos boss in bed or she may be compensating for feeling powerless in some other aspect of her life. Maybe she has a cruel boss, a domineering best friend or an overprotective mother.If you suspect that shes withholding sex to assert herself, the easiest way to get the carnal door open again is to compliment her sexual abilities and prowess. This may seem counterintuitive, but if you acknowledge how much you appreciate her in bed she may realize that trying to prove her status is unnecessary.
Shes manipulating you
Another reason women withhold sex is to get something out of you. When no other methods of getting what she wants are working, she might resort to revoking your sex privileges until you agree to what shes after. This will usually be a pretty big thing. Generally, shes not going to bother holding out on you in order to get you to take out the garbage.The easiest way to get around this is to give her what she wants. If thats not a possibility, youll have to appeal to her sense of reason. If that doesnt work, try giving her something similar to what she wants. If you cant make that happen, you might have to wait it out and service yourself until she comes to her senses.
Shes bored
She could be avoiding sex with you because shes not enjoying it. Some women are embar****ed by the idea of talking about sex with their partners, especially if there is a problem. So instead of telling you whats wrong, she might just close up shop.To get around her sex ban in this case, try suggesting something new sexually. Take her to a sex shop and buy something fun for both of you. Buy a book with suggestions on how to spice things up. If you show some interest and put some effort into making some changes, she may open up again.
Shes tired
Maybe shes not putting out because shes just too damn tired. Perhaps you want to do it more often than she does, and she just cant keep up. Other life demands might be stressing her out and keeping her busy too, making her too worn out to enjoy sex as often as youd like.To get her back into the idea, pamper her with some relaxing treats beforehand. Draw her a bubble bath or give her a massage. If shes relaxed, shes more likely to feel sexy. Or, you could be truly unselfish and devote your time entirely to her pleasure for one night, making her more likely to want to return the favor another time. Also, you might consider cutting back a bit on the frequency. Instead of going to her every time youre aroused, take matters into your own hands every now and again.
Shes cheating
It is a possibility that shes kicking you out of bed because shes more interested in having sex with some other guy. If this is the case you have bigger problems than lack of sex in your relationship. If you suspect that she is cheating on you (and you should have more reasons than just a decline in your sex routine), confront her with your suspicions calmly and listen to her explanation. If you find out she is cheating, youll have to decide if you want to work on things or move on.Playing games
Women withhold sex because men let them get away with it. Its pretty clear its the one thing that most guys cant live without and that theyll do pretty much anything to keep it coming on a regular basis. If you and your girlfriend can openly communicate, you should be able to talk through these issues as they come up instead of getting to the point where shes closing her legs while youre begging for it.