5 Common First Date Mistakes You Should Avoid … (LADIES not necessarily my views)
seanp said
09:11 04/06 2009
Even very attractive women can struggle to get dates. The reason often has to do with mistakes in the initial stages of meeting guy for the first time. We humans are social creatures; whether male of female, in the first ten minutes of conversation we do a lot of sizing up. In fact, it is likely that within the first 10 minutes of conversation we will have made all the necessary judgements about whether or not a member of the opposite sex is someone we would like to get to know better.
So wouldnt it be nice to make the right first impression? Well, why dont we start with what NOT to do; because its the little things that make guys run for the hills:
1. Trying to hard to be sexy/ too forward/ too predatory
Contrary to what some girls think, overtly attempting to flirt and make provocative sexy advances too early on is a big turn off. Put plainly, it freaks a guy out, and whether true or not, be sure he will make all kinds of assumptions about how promiscuous a girl is based on this behaviour. You can also be sure that hell assume you act this way for every guy. Also, Shock! Horror! A man may ACTUALLY wants to get to know a bit about you as a person.
2. Laughing all the time No-one is that funny
The endresult of this kind of behaviour for the guy is stale conversation and a lack of challenge. If a guy feels like youll clap and dance at anything he says, he will get bored. It is better to tease him slightly when hes not funny; hell respect you more for not being so easily entertained.
3. Drinking too much
Quite simple. Women dont like drunk men; women about to keel over with alcohol are just as repellent to the male species. There is no greater mood killer for a man than when a girl he has just been kissing turns and seductively whispers in his ear I am sooo drunk right now.
4. Trying to appear to strong and not letting their vulnerable side show
This is a tricky one for many women to get right, especially those who enjoy being very independent. Heres the thing, self-sufficient strong women are sexy, but men want to know there is a sweet girl with feelings in there somewhere. If a guy gets the feeling youre an ice queen incapable of romance, he may look elsewhere for a woman more likely to cuddle up with him when the weather turns cold.
5. Giggling and whispering with girl mates
Ironically, when it comes to getting male attraction, your best friends can be your worst enemies. Turning around every minute to whisper conspiratorially with your girlfriends may drive him crazy, but NOT in the way you might be hoping! It makes a man feel like you dont respect him enough to include him or pay attention to what he has to say.
STUWY77 said
09:14 04/06 2009
true true true
Dj Fuzz said
13:06 04/06 2009
nice post ute
BREEDA™ said
13:13 04/06 2009
good post need more like it
bLaCkBeatZ said
23:28 04/06 2009
yeh I agreee somewhat
PrincessLeah said
23:32 04/06 2009
All valid points!!
MZ Legend said
02:08 04/07 2009
thx for di info
MZ EMPRESS said
02:10 04/07 2009
yea thats tru
PRODIGIUM said
20:44 04/07 2009
Brilliant post.......
Vital said
20:52 04/07 2009
good to know!!!!
madest-one said
15:36 04/08 2009
interesting.....
cally9982 said
15:39 04/08 2009
so true
Msz JayBee said
22:42 04/08 2009
True indeed!
seanp said
22:56 05/09 2009
suh mi get it, suh mi drop it...........not my ideas but I gotta say some of them are good points for real.
Figs said
03:00 05/12 2009
4. Trying to appear to strong and not letting their vulnerable side show
This is a tricky one for many women to get right, especially those who enjoy being very independent. Heres the thing, self-sufficient strong women are sexy, but men want to know there is a sweet girl with feelings in there somewhere. If a guy gets the feeling youre an ice queen incapable of romance, he may look elsewhere for a woman more likely to cuddle up with him when the weather turns cold.
Breaking past this defence is a good challenge but can be real annoyin' if the girl won't open up in some form of way.
Even very attractive women can struggle to get dates. The reason often has to do with mistakes in the initial stages of meeting guy for the first time. We humans are social creatures; whether male of female, in the first ten minutes of conversation we do a lot of sizing up. In fact, it is likely that within the first 10 minutes of conversation we will have made all the necessary judgements about whether or not a member of the opposite sex is someone we would like to get to know better.
So wouldnt it be nice to make the right first impression? Well, why dont we start with what NOT to do; because its the little things that make guys run for the hills:
1. Trying to hard to be sexy/ too forward/ too predatory
Contrary to what some girls think, overtly attempting to flirt and make provocative sexy advances too early on is a big turn off. Put plainly, it freaks a guy out, and whether true or not, be sure he will make all kinds of assumptions about how promiscuous a girl is based on this behaviour. You can also be sure that hell assume you act this way for every guy. Also, Shock! Horror! A man may ACTUALLY wants to get to know a bit about you as a person.
2. Laughing all the time No-one is that funny
The endresult of this kind of behaviour for the guy is stale conversation and a lack of challenge. If a guy feels like youll clap and dance at anything he says, he will get bored. It is better to tease him slightly when hes not funny; hell respect you more for not being so easily entertained.
3. Drinking too much
Quite simple. Women dont like drunk men; women about to keel over with alcohol are just as repellent to the male species. There is no greater mood killer for a man than when a girl he has just been kissing turns and seductively whispers in his ear I am sooo drunk right now.
4. Trying to appear to strong and not letting their vulnerable side show
This is a tricky one for many women to get right, especially those who enjoy being very independent. Heres the thing, self-sufficient strong women are sexy, but men want to know there is a sweet girl with feelings in there somewhere. If a guy gets the feeling youre an ice queen incapable of romance, he may look elsewhere for a woman more likely to cuddle up with him when the weather turns cold.
5. Giggling and whispering with girl mates
Ironically, when it comes to getting male attraction, your best friends can be your worst enemies. Turning around every minute to whisper conspiratorially with your girlfriends may drive him crazy, but NOT in the way you might be hoping! It makes a man feel like you dont respect him enough to include him or pay attention to what he has to say.
Breaking past this defence is a good challenge but can be real annoyin' if the girl won't open up in some form of way.