Relationships - Things that will make someone abruptly dump you
Crazypickney said
11:28 03/22 2008
There are times when you meet someone and find instant chemistry. It's the thing that makes you wonder if love at first sight exists. If you are brave enough, you will ignore your inhibitions and introduce yourself. Thinking this might be the beginning of something wonderful, you are eager to know the person, only to find out that he or she has some of the most annoying behavioural patterns. Here are four things that will immediately turn someone off.
Not leaving work at the office
Annoying factor: Being a workaholic can be a good thing for your professional career, every boss loves someone who is zealous about his or her job. Remember, you are not dating your boss! Constantly talking about work can seem shallow, it shows that you are not a versatile conversationalist and you lack the ability to separate your social and professional lives.
Quick fix tip: Make occasional references about work. This will give an impression that you are focused and financially independent. Always remember you are on a date, not an interview.
Parasitic tendencies
Annoying factor: If you are in the process of getting to know someone, sending 'please call me' text messages and asking for financial favours are some of the worst things you can do. It gives the impression that you are selfish and lead an unstable life.
Quick fix tip: If the relationship is going on a path that is outside of your income bracket, address the issue. Whatever the case, don't lie about your financial situation, always try to live a life that you can afford.
Mental incompatibility
Annoying factor: Have you ever been to the cinema with someone and while you are watching the movie, they are continuously talking? It's one of the most annoying experiences, especially if you discover that the person is a selective listener. These are the persons who only hear what they want to hear.
Quick fix tip: The truth is, there are no quick fixes to a problem like this. Perhaps you were not meant to be together.
Taking control
Annoying factor: When you are on a date, you are looking for a potential spouse, not a parent. It is a repulsive habit to constantly correct someone and direct their actions. It usually attracts resistance.
Quick fix tip: Make mild suggestions where necessary and never be exclusive with your comments. Encourage the person to have his or her say and find a common ground when making decisions.
There are times when you meet someone and find instant chemistry. It's the thing that makes you wonder if love at first sight exists. If you are brave enough, you will ignore your inhibitions and introduce yourself. Thinking this might be the beginning of something wonderful, you are eager to know the person, only to find out that he or she has some of the most annoying behavioural patterns. Here are four things that will immediately turn someone off.
Not leaving work at the officeAnnoying factor: Being a workaholic can be a good thing for your professional career, every boss loves someone who is zealous about his or her job. Remember, you are not dating your boss! Constantly talking about work can seem shallow, it shows that you are not a versatile conversationalist and you lack the ability to separate your social and professional lives.
Quick fix tip: Make occasional references about work. This will give an impression that you are focused and financially independent. Always remember you are on a date, not an interview.
Parasitic tendencies
Annoying factor: If you are in the process of getting to know someone, sending 'please call me' text messages and asking for financial favours are some of the worst things you can do. It gives the impression that you are selfish and lead an unstable life.
Quick fix tip: If the relationship is going on a path that is outside of your income bracket, address the issue. Whatever the case, don't lie about your financial situation, always try to live a life that you can afford.
Mental incompatibility
Annoying factor: Have you ever been to the cinema with someone and while you are watching the movie, they are continuously talking? It's one of the most annoying experiences, especially if you discover that the person is a selective listener. These are the persons who only hear what they want to hear.
Quick fix tip: The truth is, there are no quick fixes to a problem like this. Perhaps you were not meant to be together.
Taking control
Annoying factor: When you are on a date, you are looking for a potential spouse, not a parent. It is a repulsive habit to constantly correct someone and direct their actions. It usually attracts resistance.
Quick fix tip: Make mild suggestions where necessary and never be exclusive with your comments. Encourage the person to have his or her say and find a common ground when making decisions.
-- Edited by Crazypickney at 12:39, 2008-03-22