I'm a 13-year-old girl and I'm really worried. About six months ago a really cute guy moved into our neighbourhood and we become intimate friends. He is 21 years old. We kiss and hug a lot. Lately he has started pressuring me to have sex with him. I don't want to start having sex yet, but I also don't want to lose him. He told me there are many girls out there who want to have sex with him but he wants to give me everything. What should I do?
Cherry
Dear Cherry:
You should have a serious talk with your boyfriend. Let him know that you are not ready to have sex and he should not pressure you. He should also know that you are under the age of consent. Tell him about the responsibilities that accompany sexual activity such as taking care of a child should you become pregnant, and coping with sexually transmitted infections should you become infected. The longer you remain a virgin, the longer you prevent these things from happening to you. If he continues to pressure you, then you must try to avoid situations in which you are alone with him. Do not worry yourself about losing his friendship. If he is a true friend, he will respect your decision not to start having sex so early. It may become necessary for you to speak with your guidance counsellor. He/she would be able to help you keep focus on your schoolwork.
Comdemned condoms
Dear Counsellor:
My boyfriend's religious beliefs do no allow him to use the condom. Therefore, we have been practising natural birth control and I'm comfortable where pregnancy is concerned, but I'm a bit worried because I know he is a bit on the womanising side. Do you think I'm at risk for AIDS?
Worried Wife
Dear Worried Wife:
Since natural birth control is centred on the female's fertile period and not a barrier method, this form of sexual intercourse allows for an exchange of sexual fluids. Thus it will not prevent the transmission of HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. Only abstinence totally protects you against HIV/AIDS, other sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancy. However, when you are sexually active, only a barrier method, that is, the condom, reduces the possibility of contracting HIV and other sexually transmitted infections. What if you suggest using the female condom? Would your boyfriend object to you using it? Talk with your boyfriend about the female condom.
For more information on condom use, HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted infections call the AIDS/STD Helpline at 967-3830, 967-3764 or write to AIDS Affairs, c/o the Star, 7 North
Msz JayBee said
12:39 02/26 2008
that 21 year old want a jail. You waan tell me he can't find woman he age? The hell he doing with a 13 yr old.
Msz JayBee said
12:41 02/26 2008
And to that female she dumb nuh hell to be having unprotected sex with man who have other woman. Gulliable females does just piss me off.
Garrick said
12:41 02/26 2008
no jail bait for me....None at all.
xForcex said
12:42 02/26 2008
13 gets you 20 in jail where i live
Evil Mendez said
12:47 02/26 2008
yow dat man wicked eeeh... Dont him fi dead?
rseenal said
12:48 02/26 2008
well what would u say about deva di brat then????...
linko said
12:55 02/26 2008
A MUS DEVA BREDA DAT............... R A DEVA HIM SELF
up2 said
14:20 02/26 2008
a wha d *la*hoclaaaat dis.
some man fi get gun shot str8
scuppo said
14:22 02/26 2008
21 year old..go look rightid gyal wid rightid p*u**yy
Crazypickney said
15:32 02/26 2008
a wah do that 21 year old dey man. 13 year old!!! gosh and mek the likkle pickney feel guilty bout other girls want him
linko said
15:34 02/26 2008
lol
fabio said
21:53 02/26 2008
da bowy wah bulletteeeeeeee go loook a big woman n loowwww d pickney dem mek dem grow bigga
warhawk said
21:57 02/26 2008
ah str8 gunshot wtf do him pressuring a gyal weh nuh even fully have a devloped mind yet
BadAbe123 said
21:03 02/27 2008
yow the youth probably ugly and she think him cute, so because a that him can't get not girl and want tek set pan the little girl.
He wants it, but I'm only thirteen
Dear Counsellor:
I'm a 13-year-old girl and I'm really worried. About six months ago a really cute guy moved into our neighbourhood and we become intimate friends. He is 21 years old. We kiss and hug a lot. Lately he has started pressuring me to have sex with him. I don't want to start having sex yet, but I also don't want to lose him. He told me there are many girls out there who want to have sex with him but he wants to give me everything. What should I do?
Cherry
Dear Cherry:
You should have a serious talk with your boyfriend. Let him know that you are not ready to have sex and he should not pressure you. He should also know that you are under the age of consent. Tell him about the responsibilities that accompany sexual activity such as taking care of a child should you become pregnant, and coping with sexually transmitted infections should you become infected. The longer you remain a virgin, the longer you prevent these things from happening to you. If he continues to pressure you, then you must try to avoid situations in which you are alone with him. Do not worry yourself about losing his friendship. If he is a true friend, he will respect your decision not to start having sex so early. It may become necessary for you to speak with your guidance counsellor. He/she would be able to help you keep focus on your schoolwork.
Comdemned condoms
Dear Counsellor:
My boyfriend's religious beliefs do no allow him to use the condom. Therefore, we have been practising natural birth control and I'm comfortable where pregnancy is concerned, but I'm a bit worried because I know he is a bit on the womanising side. Do you think I'm at risk for AIDS?
Worried Wife
Dear Worried Wife:
Since natural birth control is centred on the female's fertile period and not a barrier method, this form of sexual intercourse allows for an exchange of sexual fluids. Thus it will not prevent the transmission of HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. Only abstinence totally protects you against HIV/AIDS, other sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancy. However, when you are sexually active, only a barrier method, that is, the condom, reduces the possibility of contracting HIV and other sexually transmitted infections. What if you suggest using the female condom? Would your boyfriend object to you using it? Talk with your boyfriend about the female condom.
For more information on condom use, HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted infections call the AIDS/STD Helpline at 967-3830, 967-3764 or write to AIDS Affairs, c/o the Star, 7 North